I’ve pondered this question quite alot these past few years. happy?, content, fulfilled? However you define it.
Will Smith posted a discussion he had with his wife Jada on this topic and it was very enlightening.
As a couple they believed early on that coming together as a couple would somehow make them happy but have come to the conclusion that each person is responsible for their own happiness (whatever that is) and comes to the relationship with their cups full, not empty looking to the other for fulfillment. I liked this a lot. I try to keep my cup as full as I can, especially now, by doing things to improve my general well-being. My husband adds to this from his cup.
I will admit this is a much more mature way of looking at coupledom and one that we have arrived at through time, much love and hard work and by paying attention to each other more fully. And its ongoing – everyday,I pay more attention to what I have discovered makes him happy and try to add to it – I know he does the same.
I am strong I am beautiful.
So are you. Stay Awesome!