“And you may find yourself
Living in a shotgun shack
And you may find yourself
In another part of the world
And you may find yourself
Behind the wheel of a large automobile
And you may find yourself in a beautiful house
With a beautiful wife
And you may ask yourself, well
How did I get here?”
This morning I woke up to a beautiful sunrise – bright pink and glowing, framed by snow capped mountains. I’m not a religious person, but I whisper a little “thank-you” every now and then to no-one in particular – I’m so grateful for my good fortune. (and friends, keep those prayers coming at me -all the love has been very helpful to my recovery.)
There is an important topic I’ve been meaning to bring up about having your affairs in order. You need a will and a power of attorney NOW. (yes, all caps, bold, I’ve raised my voice) Time to stop procrastinating and just get it done. – Get a will, living will and a power of attorney in place.Here I found an inexpensive DIY Will kit for Canadians. —may still need to see a lawyer but a guide will help you think things through so you can be efficient in the use of your lawyers time and have those embarrassing disagreements back home in private with your spouse, not on the lawyers time —-tic – ka-ching- toc—-.
Do a google search for Holograph wills in your province, state, country – In Canada a number of provinces recognize wills written in the hand of the Testator. As an aside: I used to write one as a temporary measure before going on a major trip –just as a stop-gap until I found the time to see a lawyer and do the documents properly. Not to belabour the point but I guess I already have – you need to get this done now if you haven’t already.
Why? Because life happens unexpectedly and you may find yourself behind the wheel of a large automobile or you may find yourself lying in a hospital bed with loved ones looking down at you; facing some important, perhaps life and death decisions. Why not make this easier for everyone involved by having your expectations and wishes clearly documented and known to the people who will be important players in your health care, recovery and rehabilitation and (sadly or happily) even perhaps the distribution of your estate.
I am sad to say that this is a case of hindsight is 20/20. A friend arranged for a lawyer to visit me immediately after I was admitted to hospital where fortunately I was lucid enough to discuss my wishes and get the documents drafted within a few hours. You might not be so lucky. Do you want to be resusitated? –if yes, under what circumstances? I have also now had more detailed discussions with my husband and people close to me.
For the record, I’m not up for doing this again-. Just getting to here has been the biggest challenge of my life — and I’m not even done yet; in fact I’ve come to the realization that my recovery may never be completely complete. This Self-motivated rehab has many more years to go – and while I get back a little bit more of the “me I used to be” every day, I’m also relaxing like I have never allowed myself to relax ever before and becoming a new me that seems to have some good potential. It may be time to get down to the serious business of retiring.
As an aside, many years ago my good friend Nancy told me that her parents were taking a course on How to Retire – we laughed our asses off all the way to school that day – that’s easy we thought ….. why pay someone to tell you what and how to do exactly what you want every day. But if you are retired and reading this you know it’s not quite that simple. A life, well-lived, needs purpose and I’m still figuring that part out.